It's the first week of Spring and it's also World Doula Week, so social media is full of spring flowers and newborns. It made me realise that the feeling I get when I see those first little spring flowers poking through, or the first sunny days of the year, is reminisicant of how I feel… Continue reading Spring feelings
This summer I will start offering holistic birth prep sessions in Park Borély on Saturday mornings. It is such a lovely location and full of so many lovely memories for me, especially the meet ups with my Marseille mum friends. It is so important to find other people who understand what parenting is like, especially… Continue reading Birth preparation in the park
We hear a lot about the benefits of gratitude these days and there is evidence to show that practising gratitude can help bring health and happiness. I think there is a misconception, however, that in order to be grateful, you have to suppress any negative thoughts or feelings that you have. I don’t believe this… Continue reading Gratitude versus Honesty?
Growing up in the UK, breastfeeding was something that I almost never saw, and yet I somehow managed to have a lot of misconceptions about. I unconsciously picked up snippets of opinions from those around me. The message was confused; “breast is best”, boobs are funny/sexy, fluids that come out of bodies are gross/dirty/obscene, bottle… Continue reading Infant feeding
My postpartum doula-ing today made use of my new clothes folding skills learnt from Marie Kondo, and giving baby the full spa treatment with her second ever bath ❤️ It is a bit ironic spending time neatly folding other people's kid's clothes, knowing that my kid's clothes are just crammed roughly into the drawer, that's… Continue reading Postpartum doula musings
As much as we may be intelligent and sophisticated creatures, our brains have many levels of comprehension that are all working hard to understand the world at the same time. This is an important idea when talking about the language used in birth. For example, if an expecting parent is told that there is a… Continue reading Don’t think about a pink elephant…
I have posted before about the importance of believing in yourself. But what if the people around you don’t believe in you? I have heard from women about this feeling of not being listened to, trusted or believed in by their midwife or doctor, and I have had some experience of it myself. In my… Continue reading Being believed
We hear that you have to leave your dignity at the door when you go to give birth. How absurd! I mean, yeah, you will reveal parts of yourself that you normally keep private, there are bodily fluids involved, and there may not be another time that you feel more like an animal, more mammalian.… Continue reading Dignity in Birth
It’s about time I share one of my birth stories. I have always loved babies, I have always loved the idea of pregnancy and birth - but I never knew much about either! I realized when I was pregnant that almost all of the ideas about pregnancy, babies, but most especially birth, came from TV… Continue reading My Hypnobirthing Experience (1)
Telling someone to get more sleep when they’ve got a tiny baby waking them up every hour seems like a kick in the teeth, I know. But I write this because prioritizing your own sleep is one of the best things you can do for your mental and emotional health. This is not to say… Continue reading Looking after your mental health – Sleep
Like a lot of other parents nowadays, I jumped into parenting knowing very little about what it is like to be a parent. It used to be that, if you were one of the older 4 of 8 kids, you would raise your younger siblings. If you were in the younger half, you would help… Continue reading The expectations I had of parenting
Since Maya started school and I have found myself with a load of time to myself (BLISS!), I have been entertaining myself by taking a load of online courses. They have varied hugely in terms of quality, whether they are professionally useful or just personally interesting. I started off this hobby with the website Coursera,… Continue reading Courses galore!
In the last couple of weeks, I have begun translating some of my birth preparation handouts into French during my skype lessons. As we only have 30 minutes at a time, we never get very far before the time is up. This is taking a lot longer than when I wrote them up in Swedish,… Continue reading Latent phase